Why I don’t like to judge people – I will love you the way you are

On one of my trips, I identified this wonderful hoarding outside a restaurant that said, All of you are welcome here, we will not judge anyone based on their looks, attitude, colour, religion, belief.

I repeat the same, All of you are welcome to my blogspot, go through my blogs, comment on it, share it. I am not going to judge anyone based on any of the above.  All of us have a right to live the way, express our thoughts and are responsible for our feelings, emotions. 

The word Responsibility has a lot of responsibility, in the sense, when we know that our words or actions may hurt someone, we are more careful with it.  During my teens, I used to be outspoken and knowingly or unknowingly, I feel I would have hurt people.  However, one thing that I could pride myself on was that I would never ever judge people, even then and I have lucky to have managed to maintain that quality in me even now.

It gives me a lighter feeling when I do not have to pass comments, judgements against people. Believe me there is so much of tamasha going on in outside world, because people hold on to grudges, minor misunderstandings.  I would urge people to just speak it out, voice it out. Don’t carry it to the next year, it is not going to serve anyone. Once we speak out, we feel much lighter. It’s like dusted and gone.

In one of the online courses that I undertook, one of the subjects was a challenge wherein we had to stop judging people for a day, allow them to be the way they were. Yes, it can be quite stressful, because at that point in time, we are more thoughtful and mindful of what we say.  When we judge less, we are able to accept people and situations in life the way they are. Our happiness quotient automatically improves.

As humans we are all have giant sized egos.  As long as we do not have an oversized ego, it’s fine.  With tremendous ego, comes the power to simply pass judgements over people and situations. 

This is my synopsis of why people tend to be judgemental:

Firstly, we try to compare others to our own self and we are scared that someone else may be better than our own self in terms of looks, appearance, professionally, financially.  Isn’t it simple to accept each person just the way they are because we have been created uniquely and there is something unique about each person. Ego and resistance go hand in hand.

Many of us want people to accept us the way we are, but when it comes to us, the tables change. This is when resistance comes and we start judging.  So if you have been doing the judgement for all these years and it has not served you good, then try reducing the number of times that you judge people. If you have been doing it for 10 times, try reducing the count. It will help you to breathe well and easily and you will feel lighter in mind and soul.

Luv you all, blessing always

Rekha

p.s: 4 more days to go to welcome 2014.