There is a bit of me in U and U in me – Marriage is a WORK IN PROGRESS Contract

I guess when you are married and have spent 2 decades and a little more,   we tend to become very much like our spouse.  That’s why this quote “There is a bit of me in U and U in me.   You tend to attract more of his qualities having lived together and having spent wonderful time together.

With the rate of divorces and marital separations taking place in today’s world, it makes sense to first become a friend to your partner as this eases the situation, more so if one is going to spend one’s life with someone who is totally new.   Going back 20 years, we were lucky to see each other for close to 6 months even before we could get married.  This was not the in-thing during those days but yes, I felt good that there was this person who wanted to first get to know me before actually settling down.  A person who was modern in his outlook towards life and giving space and allowing me to be myself and this swept me completely off my feet.

It was my parents who were a little skeptical at meeting this guy who was going to marry me only 6 months down the line.  Courting days are always special and memorable for sure, for each one of us.  Even thinking of those days brings a smile to my face.  Not that things are any different now.  I guess it is more about spending time together, getting to know each other better as weeks, months and years and decades pass by.

The saying if your husband is your best friend, nothing like it.  I am sure there are many out there who have their husbands as their best friends. If you are one of those, then you are definitely lucky. Do not allow small misunderstandings ruin up the beautiful relationship.

While I was just crossing the road, I saw this big saying “Work in Progress” board. Every relationship is work in progress.  Yes, I guess we need to work out every relationship so as to keep it youngish and charming.  More so, a marriage,  there will be differences, debates, fights, misunderstandings, but ultimately he or she is your friend and a friend for LIFE.  There may be weak moments and not few but many, when either of  the partners may find it boring, just pep it up.  Either of you could take the initiative, it’s all about attitude.  It’s never too late as there are years and more beautiful years ahead.

At the end of the day, as long as you are able to laugh at your stupidity at having fought, it’s fine.  When you laugh, laugh together and when you cry, you know you have a shoulder to cry on, someone to cuddle you, make you feel good even when the going is not good.

So laugh and smile with your best friend for life, it makes life exciting and happy.

Luv

Rekha

p.s.  If you could share your deepest secrets with your spouse, then you have got it right for sure.