Tuesday, 8 October 2013

Some relationships are special and cannot be named – They are truly special and memorable

It’s possible to define relationships and give a name to a relationship when you have one.  But what about those relationships that cannot be given a form or a name.  Yes, this is very true and though many amongst us may not want to agree to this, I feel there are few relationships that are much above our so-called relationships.  What I could do from my side is to not name them.  We come across a number of people in our lives and knowingly or unknowingly are related to them in one way or the other.  Few of these people leave behind a strong mark and it’s just not possible to erase them from our memories.

When we are teenagers, we come across many friends and acquaintances who come and go, making some contribution to our life. Though we may have had a slight inkling of what they mean to us at that point in time, we would have been busy with our individual lives and careers.  But just sit back and recollect all the wonderful people who made a difference in your life, even though it may have been in a small way.  The list may really be endless.  I took out the time to recall back those wonderful memories that I had spent in Mulund.

Here I would make a special mention and a big thank you to all those people in the chawl that I grew up in at Mulund. This is where I have spent my initial years of growing and I can surely say that chawls in Mumbai does teach you a lot of life lessons. One such special relationship was with one of the neighbours, everyone called her Gujarati Mami and she was the same for me as well. I am sure did not even know how to read or write English or even understand it.  For some reason, I loved to go to her house as she always used to give me the special masala chai.  I used to read out my English compositions to her and she would say in her usual gujarati accent “ Bau saras che”in Gujarati and it meant “It’s wonderful”.  It would give me instant encouragement and I also used to feel elated that she could not write as well as I could do, little knowing that she was just trying to make me feel happy about myself.  Just when she had completed the first sentence, innocently she would ask me “ What is it that I read out to her” ?  I would explain the entire essay to her with my usual gestures and she loved seeing me actually perform the composition as if it were a play.

Thank you so much Gujarati mami for having innocently and patiently heard me out when I was growing up. Even when you were busy, you made it a point to listen to me just because it brought a smile to my face.  I miss her today so much because she is no more.  What should I name this relationship, was she a friend, a neighbor, an aunty?  This is when I thought that I could not name the wonderful relationship what I shared with her.

For all those people who have made a difference to my life, I say a BIG THANK YOU. 

Signing off for now
Luv


Rekha

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