Why letting GO is peaceful – It is not necessary to be in control always!!

As growing up kids, we have so much to worry and ponder about. We have notes to be completed, exams to be written and the only aim in life is to achieve marks.  I too like every kid have experienced the same kind of feeling. As a kid, I used to feel that once the exam is over, I would be free. I would get to play and enjoy.  But after 2 months again, the entire process would begin. Then I thought one day I would grow up, have a good job, get married, have kids, be happy and so it was.  Thank you Supreme Power for bestowing your grace on me.

As a kid I always thought that as long as you had food to eat and got to play, I would be happy, but growing up teaches you many things.  Having grown up in a typical middle class family, there were adjustments that had to be done and many of you would be able to relate to me.  There were times when I had to take up tuitions to buy that special outfit or to watch a movie.  But it was still fun and it did not bother much that I had to work to get something. I relished in that thought that I was earning and was capable to pay for the outfit or the outing. It gave me a sort of kick.

Having lived in a typical chawl set up, there was so much of noise around, neighbours having an argument over the silliest of things, so at times, you do not get to relax and be the way you wish to.  Quiet times and solitary times were few, actually NIL.  It used to bother me during examinations as the noise was the only constant factor.  I used to get irritated and just wanted some peaceful time to study and concentrate on preparation of my exams.  I knew for sure that I could not control any of those situations because that was not within my capacity to do so.

This was the first lesson I learnt in Life that it is not possible to control situations, emotions and circumstances in life. That is constant.  What I could do is to let go and try and change the way I perceived things because that is what can be changed and is achievable.  It will make me more peaceful as a person and there will be fewer things to handle and crib about.  Most of all, I do not want to overreact to many situations, but there are times that I do overreact as well. I simply try and cover it up saying Hey!!! I am Human!!!!
I am sure this is not an excuse and the only reason I am saying this is because I do not feel guilty. Atleast 6 out of 10 times, I try not to overreact and simply SMILE even if I know that things are not the way they are meant to be. 
I am trying to practice many of the things that I read and believe, but at times, I am not able to do it everytime.  Yes, I am on a journey, I have made a beginning for sure and am loving this transformation and pray to the Supreme Power to be my guiding light and show me the torch and lead me to the right path.

Love and blessings always !!!
Rekha

p.s:  Getting rid of anxiety can solve many an embarrassing situation in our life and it will also give you the much desired peace of mind.

I HAPPY – U HAPPY – WE HAPPY – Doesn’t it sound Simple and Achievable? So what’s the big Deal??

It was 7.45 a.m. and I had just missed the Kalyan train. The trains were running late that day.  I chanced upon this lady who was accompanied with her two kids.  If what I guessed was right, the kids were around 8 and 5 yrs.  There was a strange sense of satisfaction and happiness on her face. Her kids were so happy at the thought that they were travelling in the so called electric train.  I am sure they must have come from some nearby village and they would have been visiting Mumbai for the first time.
The lady appeared very simple to me and came from a very very normal financial background.  They were enjoying the journey in the train. The mother removed a small packet from her cloth bag and the kids shared that eatable.  It took me back memory lane and I was reminded of those humble times and journey where I am sure most of us are from.
I immediately tried to relate it to the modern day kids who are showered with gifts and the latest gadgets and I am sure there would be very few who are even grateful for the luxurious lifestyle that they have been blessed with.   It is definitely not my intention to generalize the kids and teens of today, but somewhere I felt that many of us have forgotten what brings us happiness.  In the past even the simplest of things brought us pleasure and excitement. Most of us and our families are bombarded with the choicest of material things but we are still lacking something.  I am not quite sure whether the vacuum that is created in most of our lives is the result of so much of comfort and lavishness.  I fail to understand, but would appreciate if anyone could ping me at iyerrekharavi@gmail.com and let me gather my thoughts. There are people who are happy for no reason absolutely and looking at them, we feel happy.  It reminds us that our sole and soul purpose in this LIFE is to be happy and we are exactly on this wonderful planet at this designated time and space to be happy.
If we thought that only bigger cars, bigger houses and foreign trips brought us happiness, then we do not even know what happiness is about. In simple words, it’s being with our family, laughing over silly jokes, sharing the day’s events with our family, spending time with school friends and last but not the least; kissing good night and sleeping peacefully without bothering about the stocks and shares and of course about the BEAR market and the BULL market.
This is so wonderful!  If you have not done these over the last few months, then you could do this even NOW -  it is still not too late.

Luv
Rekha
P.S : Try identifying the small things that brought happiness to you and you will realise that these are in fact the big things that will keep you happy forever.

You are the Author of your life – Don’t allow anyone to get away with the lifetime ROYALTY

I just stopped and pondered whether I would give my pen to anyone else to write down my deepest feelings and thoughts.  No ways !!  For me, it’s like giving my one and only pen during an examination when I have more than 50% of the exam paper to complete.  More so,  when I have prepared brilliantly and know all the answers to the questions in the exam paper. You may call me selfish but it’s fine with me.  The same holds true for our wonderful LIFE.  Never ever allow anyone to get into your personal space and dictate to you what you should be living your life.  It’s a fact that no one will understand our deepest feelings.  When this is true, how you can give the pen of your life to someone else who has no inkling whatsoever about your life and your thoughts.

At times, people will find you funny, notorious, irritating and totally crazy.  But it’s fine, it’s your life, you have a right to your emotions, be that way. They will not know what you are going through. You wish to be crazy, go ahead and do something crazy and feel happy about it.  There are days when we do not want to say Yes to a particular activity.  However, many amongst us would say Yes just to keep the opposite person happy. Though, it may sound nice once in a while, at some point in time, all these YES’s will start eating your personal space and you will feel terrible.  You don’t have to be that way. If you don’t feel like doing something, you are free to say and behave in that fashion.

There are days when we just don’t feel like talking to anyone, we need space, try remaining that way. It is not necessary to justify everything that you do to everyone. Actually, nowadays people understand these strange behaviours and they are matured enough not to judge anyone.  I am happy that the society is going through this change and as always CHANGE IS WELCOME.

No two people are similar like I mentioned in my last blog post.  What interests one person may not necessarily interest the other.  Appreciate thoughts and emotions of others just the way you would like your thoughts to be appreciated.  On some days, we just feel like doing nothing.  Actually I have realized that doing nothing is also an art.  Just looking into thin air and space is something not many people can do. You will feel happy and wonderful doing it for sometime for sure. I have tried doing it and I could manage to do it for not more than 20 mints.  But at the end of it, I felt happy doing nothing.  It actually made me feel much lighter and I felt happy that I actually did nothing for those 20 mints.  Anyways, it should not matter to anyone because that time was and is my time and I am accountable for it.

Last but not the least; no one can dull your sparkle.  Only U have the right to do so and let it be SO.

Luv and Blessings Always!!

Rekha

Why there is only one U- YOU ARE A DESIGNER PIECE CRAFTED BY THE DIVINE SUPREME POWER

Hi everyone!!

Am back after this short sabbatical .  So here we Go!!

I find it extremely special and happy after reading that there is only one unique piece that the Divine Supreme Power has made and that is each one of US.  Everyone is unique in our own way.  The Supreme Power has not used the same mould for creation.  He did not want to duplicate because he felt that he would do injustice.  It is his ardent belief that each of us is different and has some quality that is worth appreciating.   Many a times, we do not like ourselves when we look into the mirror.  But believe me, there is no one who has the same face, same shape of eyes, lips, hair, feelings (can two people feel the same feelings at the same point in time)- the answer is NO.  

 It has been scientifically proven and accepted for a fact that the fingerprints of two individuals can never be similar. That explains everything.  Can you believe the wonderful creation we are that in such a big UNIVERSE, even fingerprints do not match.  What a wonderful ENGINEER this great Divine being is.   It’s been proven that the shape of lips and the lines on the skin are different with different patterns.

Another interesting research is that even the size and shape of the tummy is different and last but not the least; the eye shape is different too.  When so many things are unique, it sums up that we are so so UNIQUE.  We the miraculous unduplicatable self is completely a designer piece and we can never attach a price tag to it. 

This sums that all of us are special and unique in our own ways.  We have a right to our feelings, joys, sorrows and we do not have to put up a show always.  The more we try and imitate and want to be like someone, we are doing injustice to our own authentic self. So let’s not get into the rat race of proving ourselves. Let’s he happy the way we are and try doing this one role to our bestest.

So be HAPPY BEING U –It’s Wonderful!!

Blessings and Luv Always

Rekha

Revisiting our Childhood once again- PART 1- HAPPY CHILDREN’S DAY

Heya everyone!!!

Firstly, Happy Children’s Day to all of us!!!

It feels truly wonderful when we think of ourselves as kids, not that many of us have grown up but we just tend to behave all though we have. Those of you who are still stressed, just for today, become a kid and do those things that you enjoyed doing.  I know that many of us are totally engrossed and busy in the humdrum of the fast paced life but few hours today will not make a difference for sure.

I remember in school we had celebrations for Children’s day and we used to participate in the cultural programs and make sure that day our teachers were entertained.  I am sure all of us would have entertained our teachers all through the years in school, with our antics and naughty acts but this was the official day when we got the chance to do so in front of a big audience.

As kids we could do anything that was supposedly ‘tabboo’ and get away with it.  Even when we used to fight with friends, it used to be settled then and there. There was innocence.  We never carried anything back home or in our minds. But as we grow up we tend to do the exact opposite of what we did when we were kids. We find it difficult to forgive and let go.  Kids only love to play, be happy, happier and happiest.  They do not label anyone – for them everything is fun.  We never believed in labels and for us everyone was a friend and it was all about having fun and more fun.

I remember when I was a kid and was also very naughty then.  I and my sister used to fight and then make up in less than 5 mints. The punishment was not to talk to my little sister. This was the greatest punishment I felt, I would wait for those 5 mints to end as if it never existed and then go and start playing and troubling her again.  That was childhood – full of innocence.

There was fun in drawing, painting, making sand castles, dancing like no one’s watching, singing even though we did not know the lyrics –but it was fun, there was enjoyment in that.  During those days we had these ice-cream vendors who used to come in the afternoon selling different colours and flavours of ice cream candies. I used to literally wait for the jingling sound of his vehicle and literally prayed that he would come that day (more so because Amma would have promised me to treat me to that ice candy).  Eating that was so joyful and I felt as if I was in the 7^th heaven. I used to plead with amma to buy me one everyday, but as all of us would be aware that money was less those days.  But the satisfaction of eating that 25 paisa ice candy can never be compared to the Baskin Robbins chocolate ice cream of today.

More about our childhood memories in the next blogpost!!!

Bye for now, keep smiling – it’s simple and will keep your Blood Pressure under control.

P.S.  Did you know that kids smile more than 350 times in a day (without exaggeration) and adults max 15 times.

Making the Weighing machine your friend for LIFE – You can see miracles happening

Remember how many times we dread or conveniently ignore recording our weight.  The moment we see the weighing machine, we somehow get uncomfortable.  Why is that we do not appreciate our body the way it is. I must mention here that the moment we start hating our bodies, it will hate you doubly in return.

Love the body and wish it good and see wonders happening. It is working for a lot many people, me included.  It is important that we make peace with our bodies.

I have heard so many of my friends who intend losing weight saying “ Even if I drink water, I will gain weight” and there it is!  The Universe says  A big YES to it and grants your wish. You will receive exactly what you ask for, neither more nor less.  The universe does not believe in simply doing things for fun.  It knows only to give what you have asked for. So the next time, you are saying anything related to your weight or health, please be aware of what you are thinking and saying.

I have begun to make peace with my body and I am sending the right messages to it day in and day out. It is getting to understand my feelings and emotions and acting exactly in the manner I wish it to behave.  So starting today just say this wonderful affirmation:

“ I CHOOSE TO BE HEALTHY AND HAPPY EVERY SECOND OF MY LIFE”. 

I FEED ONLY POSITIVE THOUGHTS TO MY BODY AND MIND AND IT ACTS EXACTLY THE WAY I  WISH IT TO BEHAVE.

These two Health affirmations can do wonders and believe me it will also ease you of many health related issues.  In addition to affirmations, also before drifting off to sleep, close your eyes and pray that you are going to introduce healthy eating habits and make exercise a part of your life.

With all these new things happening in your life, nothing can go wrong.  It is never too late to start of healthy habits in our life. So healthy eating and when I mean healthy eating, please look what you are eating, bless the food and pray that the food will give you energy for Life. 

That’s all for now.

Luv

Rekha

p.s.: If you want to share your thoughts or feelings with me, please feel free to email me at iyerrekharavi@gmail.com.

Knock Knock!!! This is Happinezzzz here – May I come in?

Just the other day I visualized a situation wherein there is a knock on my door.  I go and open the door and check out who has come knocking at this unearthly hour?  There is a reply coming “Hi Rekha!  This is happinezz here, may I enter your home?”

This truly was like a cinema movie or a serial that was going on.  I smiled to myself and I told “Yes, you may come in My Fair Lady and reside in my home and all those homes that are waiting to let you in.

Somehow she was not very happy with what I said.  She immediately responded saying, no I am not very happy visiting few homes.  I asked her the reason for this.  She told me that many of the homes are not quite inviting when it came to welcoming her.  I told her Ms.  Happinezzz,  you have continued to bless my home, family and friends.  But there are many other people who have been waiting for you.  Please visit them as well as they will be more than happy to have you in their homes.

She told me “But they are not even keen that I visit them”.  I told her ”Who told you this”  Will anyone not be happy that you are visiting.  She said “Yes Rekha”. 

I asked her what should all those people do to welcome her.  She told me it was simple.  They just had to have faith in her that she will visit their homes and be with them for as long as they wish her to.  Tell them not to doubt me whatsoever.

I reassured her that it would not be the case henceforth as we are all waiting with arms open to welcome her.  We love her so much that we want to permanently make her stay in our homes.  I winked at her and told her “Ms. Happinezzz, I don’t’ mind bribing you as long as you stay in my home. 

She said “Rekha I do not take bribes, but as long as you keep smiling and spreading the message of love and happiness, I will be your slave for LIFE”. 

I told her “Is this all you want from your folks”. She smiled and said “That’s it”. 

In return she thanked me and asked me for her favourite Koffee and I happily made it for her.  She was so happy and kissed me goodbye “She said I have spread the magic and aroma of happiness in your life, it will stay here for a long long time, till I make the next visit”. I thanked her profusely and felt happy that she is going to many more homes to bless them.

So keep the doors of your mind open to welcome her IN.  She comes in like a gust of cool breeze and will rejuvenate your mind and body and this is what you have been searching for since a long time.

Signing off for now

Rekha